Sexuality is very fluid, and it’s possible your man is a bona fide bisexual. If so, he very well may have the ability to remain faithful to you, if that’s what you two decide you want. Keep in mind, however, that a) men can be pigs and he may cheat on you -- with men. Can you live with that? And b) he might be lying to you, to himself or both, about his true sexuality. Is he being pressured to get married by his family or religious upbringing? The fact that he says he doesn’t have the “urge for sex with anyone” but you makes me think he might be a liar. Everyone has urges; it’s what you do about it that makes a relationship work or not. Bottom line: Make sure you feel 100 percent about the quality of communication in your relationship with this guy. If you have any doubts about his honesty, it probably means something, and you should pay attention to your gut.

Kenny’s pretty much sewn it up here, so I can only add this: If you think he might cheat, it doesn’t matter which gender he cheats with, he’s still cheating. Look at that part, not the bi part, and you’ll have a clear answer.

Just a few thoughts from a straight guy here, Bruce. First -- that Caps Lock key on your computer is not a toy. When you send an e-mail in all caps, it’s the virtual equivalent of shouting into a megaphone. Just a few capital letters per sentence will be fine -- no need to scream.

Secondly, I totally see why you would want to just light a bag of e-dog poop and leave it in someone’s inbox. If it makes you feel better, keep doing it. But if it doesn’t, you should stop. Kenny and I get all kinds of awful e-mails all the time, and we just laugh at most of them.

These letters/comments are always written by a person with a very particular sort of personality disorder that causes joy to be expressed as rage, and rage to feel like an exquisite pleasure. People like this are incapable of true happiness as we understand it -- they can only feel good when they are riled up and furious. Try to see letters like that as the lighthearted expression of a diseased mind, and then go get some fresh air. You’ll feel lots better.

Probably.

You know, we get several e-mails like this a week. And not one of you fiends has even thought to ask if you can buy me dinner first. Anyway, my answer is NO.

Dwaynne, there are no easy answers, especially for gay men for whom choice of underwear is an art form. It depends on the pants you’re wearing, where you are going, what/who you might be doing later, and a host of other variables. You don’t like to wear the same exact thing every day, do you? Neither do your dangly bits. It’s important to have a well-rounded underwear collection -- you need at least two dozen pair in total -- including briefs, boxers, boxer briefs, a jockstrap, a union suit and maybe one exotic (bikini, mesh, etc.) But please: No thongs, as they are just wrong.